Hello dear readers,
This post is about something all of us have been striving to achieve for years. The ulterior motive of everything we have done till now (going to school, college etc) was to achieve this one thing. This thing that I am talking about is success. All of us wants to lead a successful life. And this post is to aimed to help you realize that dream.
The word meaning of success is subjective. It changes from person to person. I define success as infinite wealth and power. For another person, this term might mean finding a cure for cancer or being an Olympic gold medalist. So the first step to achieve success is to realize what It means to you. What do you want to be?
Many of us do know what we really want to do in life. But we don’t do it. Why? Because of FEAR.
“What will others think of me If I do this?”
“What if it fails?”
You can complete the question “What if………….?” In a million ways to fuel your fear and prevent yourself from even trying. And it is how one responds to that question, which will determine if he’s a winner or a loser. Do you rely on your petty excuses and don’t even make an attempt to succeed or do you go against all odds to make things happen?
Fear is your biggest enemy, my friend. It's unconsciously holding you back, preventing you from achieving success. But at the same time, if you do conquer this enemy, you will be on you're way to greatness. You will be a leader not a follower. You will be a risk-taker. You will leave this world, with a string of accomplishments and victories hooked to your name. And when I mentioned fear, I didn’t mean you're fear of spiders or height. I'm talking about your fear of failure, fear of the unknown and the fear of rejection.
The Fear of rejection: All of us are approval junkies. At the end of the day, we are all doing what others want us to do.
“I did this because everyone else did it…”
How many times have we justified our actions with this answer?
Friends, to overcome your fear, you need courage. Be Courageous enough to pursue what you truly want. Instead of following the footprints of others, set your own path. I know friends who have been pressurized by society to act against their free will. For example, one of my friends who has an insane passsion for automobiles, has chosen civil engineering because of parental pressure. Do you think he will be as successful in Civil as he would have been in automobile? I don't think so. When it comes to decisions regarding your life, don't rely completely on anyone. Ask for suggestions and advices but the final decision must be yours. (I cannot stress on this point enough)
Remember, your dream will seem ridiculous to another person and people WILL laugh at you when you do something differently. You will be ridiculed by people who won't even know what your passion is about. The losers, budge to the ridicule and follow the herd. The winners, pursue their dreams with courage and become great leaders. And they could not care less about what people think. I'm faced with ridicule all the time. But it doesn't get to me. I am bold enough to pursue what I want. And I will die a happy man doing what I do (being a businessman). I suggest you to develop a similar attitude.
Let me illustrate my point with real life stories of successful men.
US Senator Chuck Schumer said in the television series- The Apprentice, "If you want to know whether you'll be successful in what you do, Just do this exercise- When you wake up on a monday morning, if you feel in the gut to stay in bed and relax over the work, you will never be successful in that profession." LOVE WHAT YOU DO AND DO WHAT YOU LOVE.
Arnold Schwarzenegger, the only person in the world to win MR.UNIVERSE title for 2 consecutive years, the highest paid entertainer in hollywood, went to America as an immigrant. He wanted to get into the movie business. People used to laugh at him. They used to say, "How can you get into the movie with your stupid accent? And how the hell do you pronounce your last name?" All this humiliation did not discourage him. It made him pursue it with greater perseverance and persistence. And look where it got him? He ended up being the highest paid entertainer in history. He says, "I am where I am only because I did not listen to the word CAN'T". Remember, the word "can't" doesn't exist. And it doesn’t matter what people think about you. Because what people think of you, is not what you are. It’s what they perceive you are.
When you close this blog and return to your life, spend a moment with yourself. Ask yourself, "Are you doing what you really want to do?". If you are not, you're never going to be successful in a million years. You're half way to success by just making the choice to succeed.
So before I conclude, I'll tell you this one more time. Overcome your fear of rejection - It doesn't matter what people say about you.
Overcome your fear of failure- The fear of failure is worser than failure itself. It doesn’t matter if you fail. Like I said before, failing does not make you a failure but quitting does.
Cheers.
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